I was having a conversation with someone who said that the main problem with their marriage is that there was a lack of communication. I’ve heard that many times, and I would like to know how that can affect the relationship, to the point where someone cheats or divorces? Have you ever felt that there was a lack of communication in your relationship and what did you do to improve this issue?
We went to a marriage seminar. It worked, but we were never quite on the same page. She started to change and stopped being honest with me. We divorced after 23 years.
I later met a woman who was on the same page as me- we shared the same thoughts, we could finish each others sentences, and we always find ourselves saying to the other "I was about to say that too."
She and I know we are true soul-mates, and we both know we’ll make it this time.
My ex was my prom queen, we had it all- looks, sexual chemistry (climaxed together), a true love (at one time), communication, and a network of friends and family to keep us together. We were just never on the same wave length, and that ultimately was our demise.
Relationship Communication Problems : Relationship Communication Problems: Cultural Differences
Our communication is great! I make sure I don’t come home until she’s in bed, that way we rarely have to talk. Works great. Seriously.
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It will be a major problem.
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Divorcing because of this. 11 years married
Hmm, well I guess all you can do is be open and honest and have fun.
Easier said than done, I know but I don’t really get this.
I think there was something else wrong. :/
I s’pose just lvoe, love LOVE and you will be fine ;D
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We went to a marriage seminar. It worked, but we were never quite on the same page. She started to change and stopped being honest with me. We divorced after 23 years.
I later met a woman who was on the same page as me- we shared the same thoughts, we could finish each others sentences, and we always find ourselves saying to the other "I was about to say that too."
She and I know we are true soul-mates, and we both know we’ll make it this time.
My ex was my prom queen, we had it all- looks, sexual chemistry (climaxed together), a true love (at one time), communication, and a network of friends and family to keep us together. We were just never on the same wave length, and that ultimately was our demise.
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99% of marriage is all about COMMUNICATION.
Communication and compromise and cooperation are the 3 C’c of marriage.
I’ve been working on communication for 22 years and I haven’t got it right yet. Haha.
Yes, if U do not work it out it could lead to divorce — cuz divorce is mostly about MIS communication.
What I am doing to improve our situation is keeping those lines open — whether it is talking face to face, or on the phone, or in a note, or in an email. Can’t clam up — that only makes it worse!
Silence is only golden when everything is OK.
There are more creative ways to express yourself. Does not always have to be with words. That is what sex is for sometimes. Then there is always being with friends or going out on a date, or sending gifts. Is is ALL communication. And it is ALL important.
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Communication is a big issue. Right now I am seriously thinking Divorce because he is so strong willed and hard headed. I have quit trying to talk to him about our problems because he doesn’t think we have a problem. As long as everything goes his way, everything is ok. We disagree about everything, especially the kids, all are teenagers now and we do not agree on the dating issues. I have found it easier to just not say anything because it blows up into a big fight. We sit at home all day long just the two of us and sometimes do not say one word to each other. That’s not how a marriage should be. We have been married 21 years.
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yes. I improved it by getting a divorce.
Not that I reccomend it for everyone, but it worked for me.
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The reason that communication is such a problem for married couples is that men and women are so different in how they handle things. Women want to tell their husbands about their problems like they do their girlfriends and get a sympathetic listener. Men want to fix things, they don’t understand the concept that their wife is telling them a problem that they don’t expect to be fixed. When the man feels that she’s telling him something that he can’t fix, he begins to tune out. She gets upset that he’s not listening to her. He can’t understand why she’s upset at him. He begins to withdraw emotionally. She gets even more upset and now wants to "fix" their relationship issues by talking them to death. He withdraws even further into his man cave. She follows after him screeching and now he feels as if he can’t win and she’s turned into some swamp creature that he doesn’t even recognize anymore. Then he begins to lose the attraction that he once felt for this once lovely fair creature. She responds with even more trying to fix him and the relationship by even more shrill talking. He, in turn either seeks solace in another woman’s arms or packs up and leaves.
So, basically, men and women need to learn how the other one deals with issues and learn to respect their total and complete differences in handling them. Talk to your girlfriends about these issues and turn to your man to fix the things that he can. Don’t expect to change him or "fix" him. Love him for the simple man that he is.
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Without a doubt our lack of communication was about all that kept us together for a couple of years.
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Just sayin’
Yes and it was his 95% fault. He would leave for work between 6 am to 8 am and return any where from 10 pm to 8 am the next morning claiming to be at work. Couldn’t reach him by phone. I even had the security guard would go search for him without success. When I asked where he was, all I heard was "work" and when I would explain how I had the security guard–and twice the police–check on him, he was no where to be found. I told him the marriage was supposed to be a partnership and he needed to spend time with the kids (the youngest at age 1 didn’t even know him and was terrified of him if I ever left him with the kids while I was able to go to the Laundromat).
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