If so then how come most women shut us men off when things go downhill in a relationship
when we men want to approach the women and want to discuss what went wrong or what misunderstanding that could’ve occurred they say "oh i need space", "can’t talk now", "please leave me alone"
Are women using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship?
SHut off communication to create even more drama and misunderstandings?
then how come when guys want to discuss what went wrong and when they put thelir lives on hold and put everything else aside, take time off, put their pride away and initiate a convo about the relationship to women, they shut us off…why is that when we hold our end of the deal they don’t understand that and want to go over things WHEN THEY FEEL IS THE RIGH TIME
is it just American women?
or is it like that everywhere
Depends on the woman, the man, and the stage of their relationship. If either party is immature, communication is probably going to be poor at any time in their relationship.
What I’ve seen and experienced in a relationship, is when one of you (not necessarily the man or woman, can be either) is upset, and tries to tell their partner, for whatever reason, the partner doesn’t listen or take it seriously (they’re stressed out, working too much, don’t think it’s a big deal, or they could be selfish). If this happens a number of times, the partner who is not being listened to will tune out more and more. Finally, when there is practically no communication going on, the other partner wakes up and wants to know why the other person is upset. By then, a lot of people are so hurt, and feel so rejected, they don’t care anymore about the relationship.
Now, no matter what the other person does to try to patch things up, the trust and respect has been broken. It’s too little too late for some partners.
Been there, had it done, and done it (when younger and very immature).
yes it is
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mmm….i guess its Guys who dont wanna talk/discuss… when we women ask for explanation, men will answer.."there’s nothing to talk"….but ur different!….
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asian woman
They are trying to hold some kind of power over you, they want you to kiss but. But if you kiss but, they will lose respect for you as a man, so never kiss but, and try to get to the route of the problem without acting like a desperate sensitive fool. Woman always talk about how they want a sensitive guy but where i come from and what i have learned, is they want a man with a heart of steal, a man who can control his weak girly emotions. And yes American woman are the hardest to communicate with and the hardest to get along with. I have always recommended a woman from South America or Mexico that doesn’t drink and appreciates every moment of being with her man, threw thick and thin.
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it’s not just women that shut down the lines of communication in a relationship… i think guys do it more often than women do… and when women do cut off communication when the guy wants to communicate, by then the woman has already dealt with enough silence from the guy to even want to bother with it anymore.
on a side note…. why so many questions degrading women? alot of the stuff that you’re asking about, men do the majority of the stuff you’re asking "why women do this"
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It is mostly American or British women. Not women worldwide, especially Asia/India/etc etc but exceptions are everywhere…. I know many great Christian couples in USA/Canada very happy with each other and married for life.
1000% communication is important
Working it out through ups and downs
When the going gets tough the tough gets going…..
Dont back out when the tough part is happening just work it and be loyal and be faithful. Thats what makes a great marriage and great example for the kids.
Men are the same but women add more strength to it. They have lost their character and belief in being married to one man. The degrade themselves and then show like they dont care which only proves them to be what they are.
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In my opinion, communication is what binds a relationship/marriage together apart from love. It is important for a couple to be open and honest with each other when encountering problems such as marital, money etc. so that they can be nipped in the bud. Failure to do so would possibly result in the relationship going downhill and eventual separation.
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I’m pretty sure it happens everywhere else too. I highly doubt the rest of the world has perfected the art of relationships/marriage.
As for why women do this…..I think it is a power play…a way to break you….they know you came to them to talk..now they are gonna make you wait longer in order to see just how much you really care.
There are times when it’s just dealing with stubbornness and anger that they have going on as well. In which case..just leave them alone for awhile, and come back a little later..and talk. There is nothing wrong with giving a woman (or man for that matter) time to work out their anger issues so they can talk more rationally and be calm when they do talk to you.
Trust me, most women and men…..want to work it out…in spit of the hurtful feelings..they just don’t want to say something they will regret later because they let their temper get the best of them. So, if they need a little space…give it too them. (Btw..to confirm if this is the case with her…after you resolve your issue with her…while she’s calm and in a good mood…ask her about it..if that indeed is the case…chances are..it is).
Guys do this too…..sometimes we need that space…we don’t want to say something that will hurt the woman we love…so we need some time to work out our hurt/angry feelings so that we can better face the issue. Not all of us know how to say that to a woman….but it doesn’t mean it’s not true. The same goes in reverse. Not all women know how to communicate this with a man either. Others, are very good at this type of communication…..
You are probably the type of person who when he sees a problem…he wants to get it fixed, right away….like when something is wrong with the car….gotta fix it…..no waiting around…just go at it. However, when it comes to relationship issues…it can’t always be handled like that. Sometimes…you have to think things through for awhile…..get an idea of what you want said, what makes sense to you…..and then address it while you are calm and can think rationally. She’s more like that…..she’s the type who likes to plan things out for awhile…really do a lot of thinking and talking before the actual doing part takes place.
Just have patience…you can work it out. It may not be on your schedule…..but trust me….life isn’t always able to follow a schedule. Life is more chaotic than that….and will rebel against schedules….that’s just how life is.
I wish you luck though…and I hope that even if my words don’t help you, that someone’s words will.
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I highly recommend the book "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus". I believe 95% of your questions would be answered if you keep an open mind.
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Married 13 yrs (this time)
I’m American and so would some of different nationalities say the same, I say yes it is, cause if it isn’t you’re not going to get to far is all I’ve got to say. Now taking it from here I can say that some forego communication, communication being our main topic, just to have a handy excuse to use when that sad event of divorce comes round. You’ve got to admit it’s quite useful, sad, yet true.
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Depends on the woman, the man, and the stage of their relationship. If either party is immature, communication is probably going to be poor at any time in their relationship.
What I’ve seen and experienced in a relationship, is when one of you (not necessarily the man or woman, can be either) is upset, and tries to tell their partner, for whatever reason, the partner doesn’t listen or take it seriously (they’re stressed out, working too much, don’t think it’s a big deal, or they could be selfish). If this happens a number of times, the partner who is not being listened to will tune out more and more. Finally, when there is practically no communication going on, the other partner wakes up and wants to know why the other person is upset. By then, a lot of people are so hurt, and feel so rejected, they don’t care anymore about the relationship.
Now, no matter what the other person does to try to patch things up, the trust and respect has been broken. It’s too little too late for some partners.
Been there, had it done, and done it (when younger and very immature).
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